There has been significant shifts in social attitudes, behaviours and institutional regulations surrounding sexuality since Freud opened the door to the bedroom. Sexuality throughout the 20th century has moved closer to the centre of public debate than ever before. One hundred years ago the idea of sexual politics would have been unthinkable. For many in the lecture today the 1960s which unleashed the so called sexual revolution seems more a source of comic relief and tragic nostalgic recirculation than political inspiration. Throughout the late 1960s and early 1970s the combination of student protests, counter culture movements and medically prescribed contraceptives ushered in a decisive break with the preceding values which prescribed confinement of women’s sexual pleasure within the suburban walls of heterosexual marriage and the regulation of man’s sexuality in the public. D.H Lawrence may have shocked an earlier generation with Lady Chatterley’s extramarital sexual independence, but it was not until the 1970s that women’s sexuality outside marriage became widely accepted.
-From the essay The Sexual Revolution of the 60s by isis Creations
Those were the words of the 1960s. In the time of Johnson's Vietnam stupidity and post-McCarthyist self-individuality, Americans & Brits looks toward a new form of enlightenment: Sex. The age of the hippie where a women can choose their man without any of the 1950's "perfectionist" criteria being shoved down their throats. If the 50's show that women choose their husband through criterias like money, looks and a happy suburban life, then in the 60's women choose choose their men through three things: Freedom, Personality and Sex.
However, here in Malaysia it's pretty much still the 50's by social terms. Girls choose their men by money and looks rather than personality. Got a nice car? You get a girlfriend. Handsome looks? Get a girlfriend. Lots of money? Get a girlfriend. Personality? Sense of humour? Good heart? Not needed.
Which is why most Malaysian girls you see are dating guys who are douchebags with long-hairs. I'm not generalising, but i'm being honest. A sexual revolution means that girls choose men by personality, freedom & sex. You don't need good looks, you don't need money, all you need is to have a good personality & be good in bed.
The hippies of the 60s may not have looks and money, but they are orgy-makers of all kinds. Most of these hippies were jocks, nerds, cheerleaders and such that were tired of the 50's conformist love model. They wanted men that could make them laugh rather than having good looks. They wanted men that could please them from the inside rather than from outside. That's sexual revolution.
And this is what Malaysia should be doing. A Malaysian sexual revolution would not just change a woman's view on men, but would also increase sexual productivity to a point Mahathir wanted by 2050. And not just that, it may reduce the chance of dumb MPs saying sexist things like 'bocor', and a sexual revolution would also give more role to for the Ministry of Women, Family & Community Development. Sure, Malaysian women are now free in terms of general feminism like equality & jobs, but in social feminist terms like sexual desires and long-term happiness, they are not free.
A school girl from a high school in Malaysia may have a boyfriend who is as gorgeous as Pete Wentz and has all the money as a result of his father who's a Datuk. But, he may be a douchebag on the inside, who has no sense of humour and no nice-guy attitude personality whatsoever. And the girl may have a crush on a guy who's nice and funny, but is too shy to like because he's not handsome and is not as rich as his current boyfriend.
We know the suffering you girls have. You girls wanted a man who's funny and nice, and decided to go for the douchebag because he has the looks and he's rich. I mean, if a girl goes for the handsome-less then other people will perceive you as a freak. I know, because i have seen dumb mistakes girls have made when i was in Cempaka. And for the lonely guys who can't get a girlfriend because he's not rich nor handsome: We know your pain. But you must know that the girl who's dating the handsome guy whom you envied may have a crush on you. Why? Because she knows that you're funny and has a nice personality, but she's too ashamed to admit that.
But that will soon change. Why? Because Malaysia will have a sexual revolution. That will be the day when girls would choose a guy for the sake of personality & sex rather than the looks & money. We will have that revolution. Don't worry guys. Your time will come.
And yes, in the issue of Islam, we know sex is a taboo. But taboos are culture and not religion. Islam does not oppose sex but they do oppose public flashing and anything pro-Wicker Man. But if you're looking for a Muslim who endorses sexual revolution through an Islamic point of view, then look no further to this lady:
And in the issue of politics, a sexual revolution may influence the next egneral elections. Sex sells, and it's time for the political parties to stop portray sex as a negative issue, and instead portray it as a positive issue. After all, who wouldn't wanna see posters like this:
1 comment:
I'm finding this article a little distasteful, but then again, it might because I'm missing the whole point.
Sex has become a "force to reckon with", I'm sure. And something that is being used quite excessively to gain popularity, or at the very least, attention.
i'm not against it, really. I personally don't think it's a bad idea to flaunt sex appeal, if you have any.
But surely, sex appeal is not just for females to flaunt?
If your posters are anything to go by, then surely, it would be more of an appeal for 51% of the Malaysian population if it were great-looking men instead? They just feel a little too sexist for my comfort.
Just my two cents
Michelle
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